Talking to kids about racial inequality and other tough topics
Racial inequality and discrimination are hot topics - in the United States and right in the Quad Cities. There seems to be something in the news every day - from debates about refugees and immigration to demonstrations and even riots.
But this can be a scary topic to talk to your kids about. And these aren't new issues.
"There's a tie between past and present," explains Latrice Lacey, director of the Davenport Civil Rights Commission. Her organization handles discrimination complaints and conducts community outreach, education and training.
"If we don't talk about racial differences and historical inequalities, we could be raising the next generation to be uninformed."
But where to begin? Here are a few tips.
Talk about it.
Talking about racial inequality can be as difficult as bringing up the birds and the bees.
"Talking to kids about race can be uncomfortable," Latrice concedes. "But probably more so for parents than kids."
Kids want to understand the world. And they have a higher threshhold for talking about tough topics than we give them credit for. Maybe as a parent, you are afraid you will say something wrong. Or that bringing it up will bring more focus on differences.
"We have tried to ignore differences and be 'color blind,'" Latrice says. "But it's a myth. Our differences don't go away if we ignore them."
That's why we need to talk to kids about our differences - to encourage them to embrace diversity around them.
The goal is to build a family where racial inequality and other difficult issues are discussed openly. By talking about these topics, we are also able to learn more about our kids' concerns.
This starts at a young age. Patrice says talking to kids about race should begin as early as possible.
Here are a few ideas to help you start the conversation:
Talk about things that make you and your family different from others - perhaps your family's culture or religion makes you unique. Celebrate the differences!
Talk about how friends all look different. Encourage kids to talk about what they love about their friends' and family members' differences.
Choose books that discuss race and feature characters who look different than your kids.
If your child comments on different skin colors, don't be dismayed. Children naturally begin to notice differences at a young age, and this is a great opportunity to talk about it.
And as kids get older, the conversation should go deeper.
"We should talk to older kids about the things our country has done historically to further racial inequality," Latrice suggests. "It's important to discuss what has happened in the past and what we can do to create change."
This history - including policies like school segregation and housing discrimination, still have a large impact on minorities today. School history books often skip or gloss over these complex issues, which means it's up to parents to talk to kids.
It's important because these historical policies, in many ways, led to a race divide that exist stoday. And this could help your kids (and you) have a better understanding of the problems we face.