6 people you need in your tribe
Every parent needs a tribe. Including you.
You need a group of people who can support, uplift, answer questions, and make you feel normal.
This isn't always easy. It can be a challenge to find people who will be a part of your inner circle - but it's always worth the effort. It can even help you be a better parent.
"We are meant to be interconnected," explains Angie Kendall, director of development and communications at the Child Abuse Council. "Sometimes it can feel awkward, but we must make purposeful connections."
If you don't feel like you have a tribe, that's okay. Now's the time to make an effort to build your support system. Consider it a gift to yourself and your family.
Before you begin, make a list of the people who are already there for you - your siblings, parents, friends and acquaintances. Many of us have a tribe without even realizing it.
Then, build on it.
First, start a wish list of who you need in your own tribe. It may seem strange, but this is a great way to start building intentional relationships.
Here are a few people you want to include on that list.
Someone who has the guts to tell you the truth.
It's not difficult to find a "yes man" (or woman). These friends can be fun to be around - but they aren't interested in having the tough conversations.
And when it comes to your tribe, you need someone who can have tough conversations. You need the open and honest relationships.
It can take time to find friends like this - friends who are willing to tell you the truth. And it can take time to build these deep relationships in your tribe.
But finding people who can be honest with you - even when it's not easy - is worth the effort.
Someone who makes time for you.
Your tribe must go beyond the screen. Social media and technology can make it easy to stay connected, but your tribe must go beyond that.
"Facebook isn't enough," Angie says. "Online connections don't take the place of real connections."
And this means you also have to be willing to get off the computer and connect in person. Set up a coffee coffee or meet at the park with your kids. This is how you'll build meaningful and lasting relationships with members of your tribe.
And if you want something more formal, try scheduling a monthly get together with a group of friends. This helps you make it part of your routine!
Someone who is older than you and somone who is younger than you.
Don't limit your tribe to people who are in the same life stage as you. This can be an easy trap to fall into - the people you spend time with are often around your age with kids that are your age.
Try to develop relationships with people who are older and younger than you.