5 parenting myths - busted

When you become a parent, it's as though you are suddenly wearing a sign that reads, "Tell me how I should raise my child."

Some of the advice is innocuous - "Sleep when the baby sleeps." (As though your house will clean itself and your laundry will fold and put itself away.)

But some things that people tell you (or imply) are best to be ignored. Here are five parenting myths we think should be busted!

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Enjoy this time - it goes so fast.

Okay, so maybe this is true. It seems much too prevalent a sentiment to believe otherwise.

But some days seem to go on forever. There are messes and tears mixed in with joy and fun. There are days where we are just trying to make it to bedtime.

And that's okay. It's normal.

Parenting can be really hard work. Just keep on doing your best and loving your children fiercely, and don't worry if you aren't enjoying every moment as much as your Great Aunt Joan tells you should be.

(And also, remember those long days in 40 years when you are about to share these words of wisdom with a new parent.)

Always put your kids first.

Several well-meaning family members have told me, "Wait 'til you have kids." As though having children means you have to give up everything you do and enjoy today.

But the opposite is actually true.

"You are better able to care for your kids when you care for yourself," says Sue Klingaman, early childhood mental health consultant at Robert Young Center.

This means it's even more important as a caregiver to go out dates, go out with friends, enjoy hobbies, eat right, and exercise.

Doing these things also provides a living example to your children of the importance of taking care of yourself first.

Rely on your instincts - no training is necessary to be a parent.

Many experts would agree with the premise of this advice - as a caregiver, you are the expert on your own child. (We reminded you of this in our post about parental paralysis.)

But, it's also important to know when to ask for help.

"We can help our kids be resilient by being prepared," explains Jennifer Best, certified family life educator with Iowa State University Extension.

This means that when you notice something going on with your child or your family, it's your responsibility to reach out to specialists and support services you trust. (Check out our list of a few local resources for ideas of where to begin.) By connecting with help right away, you can help your child before anything becomes a major issue.

"Everyone has problems," Jennifer says. "You didn't cause it, but it's your job as a caregiver to help children deal with issues."

If your kid throws a tantrum, you are doing something wrong.

As a caregiver, we've all felt the heat of judging eyes - in the parking lot at the museum, in the cereal aisle at the grocery store - reminding