Seven things you should say to a parent

We made it to the third aisle at Hy-Vee before it happened. A meltdown of epic proportions.

It began with a simple request for a cookie. And then it escalated quickly to a battle of the wills. There was screaming. There were tears.

As a mom, I wanted to cry, too. I can’t give in every time my son screams louder. But, I was also exhausted. And embarrassed.

I scanned for the nearest exit, and then I remembered my empty fridge.

An older gentleman looked at my son, flung on the floor in a puddle of tears, and looked disgusted.

Was everyone looking at me? Judging my parenting?

Just then, a mom came down the aisle with two (well-behaved) kids in her cart. She glanced at Henry, looked me right in the eye and smiled kindly. Then, she said, "We had a similar scene over Elmo yesterday. Hang in there, mom."

I wasn't alone.

My embarrassment immediately vanished. It was almost like she gave me a fist bump right next to the Cheerios.

Being a parent can be challenging and it can be lonely. But sometimes, a kind word makes a world of a difference.

Whether you are a caregiver yourself or someone who simply wants to encourage others, here are seven things you should say to parents to support and encourage them.

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I've been there.

All parents want to know that what they are going through will pass and that they are not alone.

And telling a caregiver that you've been there isn't only important for the tough times (like the grocery store meltdowns). I also find comfort in talking to parents with older children about how the good memories are cherished for years to come.

How can I help?

It's not easy to ask for help, and many parents don't have a strong, local support system. By asking how you can help, you are telling them that you care and want to do something for them.

You can load groceries into the van, provide a couple hours of babysitting, or even offer to do a few loads of laundry.

Also - remember that most people don't ask for help. So consider ways you can just jump in and help a caregiver. Insist on carrying groceries to the car, doing dishes after dinner, or helping put the kids to bed.

However you lend a hand, know that your small act of kindness can mean the world to someone.

Your child is so polite/smart/____________.

All caregivers love to hear that their kids are making them proud. So, when you see a child being great, try giving the parents the compliment. Chances are, the child learned it from them.

Your hair looks great today.